I so appreciate your raw honesty about your healing process. Thank you for sharing. It took me many, many years of work to have more control of all of my triggers, left over from childhood. I had very loving parents, but my youngest sister was profoundly intellectually disabled. She was our family focus and, as the oldest daughter, I was very close to my parents and internalized their pain, etc. My triggers were (and still are) feeling responsible for other people’s pain/moods, etc. When someone was sad, in a bad mood, etc. it was my fault. Now, I am able to talk myself down and say—“wait a minute, did you do anything to cause that person’s bad mood? No? Ok, then go on with your day, sigh of relief, let them handle it.” It still takes mental energy, but my triggers don’t control me anymore, at least most of the time…
I also wanted to say that I love your children’s books.
I so appreciate your raw honesty about your healing process. Thank you for sharing. It took me many, many years of work to have more control of all of my triggers, left over from childhood. I had very loving parents, but my youngest sister was profoundly intellectually disabled. She was our family focus and, as the oldest daughter, I was very close to my parents and internalized their pain, etc. My triggers were (and still are) feeling responsible for other people’s pain/moods, etc. When someone was sad, in a bad mood, etc. it was my fault. Now, I am able to talk myself down and say—“wait a minute, did you do anything to cause that person’s bad mood? No? Ok, then go on with your day, sigh of relief, let them handle it.” It still takes mental energy, but my triggers don’t control me anymore, at least most of the time…
I also wanted to say that I love your children’s books.