I sure relate to that voice of your nasty little nag. It's taken decades for me to learn to say "shut up!" (Well, more like f--- off.) I remind myself I'd be appalled if I heard a person address another like that.
Yet I don't want to totally get rid of it, either. It's part of me; I'm big enough and way more than old enough to hold it. It helps to externalize these things--as you do--to see or hear them clearly.
Besides, it's part of what made me who I am. Being bullied, being the target of cruel comments (even your own) certainly can be used to develop a deep sense of compassion.
PS--the avatar is my own artwork. One of the things, despite the internal critics, I know I do well.
Thanks, Rafi! It's interesting to hear what you say. Mine is a part of me too. I don't know if it has a role anymore, though yours seems to. I'll have to think on it, but it is the young me struggling to get by and in that way is a tender part.
Well I'm not sure it's a good idea to keep it at all. But certainty and control are left brain hemisphere functions that are often faulty, so I'll pick living with the uncertainty.
Be nice to yourself. As you have literally illustrated, you are your own worst enemy - as are we all our own. Perhaps you won't even have an enemy if you erase the dude on the right above... or at least don't give him the mic or a nice seat at the table. And let the dog chase him away.
I sure relate to that voice of your nasty little nag. It's taken decades for me to learn to say "shut up!" (Well, more like f--- off.) I remind myself I'd be appalled if I heard a person address another like that.
Yet I don't want to totally get rid of it, either. It's part of me; I'm big enough and way more than old enough to hold it. It helps to externalize these things--as you do--to see or hear them clearly.
Besides, it's part of what made me who I am. Being bullied, being the target of cruel comments (even your own) certainly can be used to develop a deep sense of compassion.
PS--the avatar is my own artwork. One of the things, despite the internal critics, I know I do well.
Thanks, Rafi! It's interesting to hear what you say. Mine is a part of me too. I don't know if it has a role anymore, though yours seems to. I'll have to think on it, but it is the young me struggling to get by and in that way is a tender part.
Well I'm not sure it's a good idea to keep it at all. But certainty and control are left brain hemisphere functions that are often faulty, so I'll pick living with the uncertainty.
Be nice to yourself. As you have literally illustrated, you are your own worst enemy - as are we all our own. Perhaps you won't even have an enemy if you erase the dude on the right above... or at least don't give him the mic or a nice seat at the table. And let the dog chase him away.
Thanks, David. I appreciate the sweetness. That dude is there, invited or not. My plan is to keep welcoming him until he has no more effect.
Love it!
Thanks, Silvana!
Spot on.
Thanks, Aunty!